Here is what happened..part II

After typing my "what happened" segment I promptly went to the store to get all the items on my ever growing shopping list. I strolled along the aisles thinking about the "road less traveled" and my life and all the many bumps, bruises and U-turns I have taken.

I strolled with my cart on the outside of the store. (back in the diet saddle) It was in the middle of my list, strolling, cheese, eggs, milk, chicken, fish...~son of a Bi*ch~ "that is it!" [I think I might have sent the 95 year old lady in front of me to the hospital with a small heart attack...ooppsss...]]

I think I know why I feel so out of sorts! I am ready to now mull this small discovered fact over and begin to figure out "WHAT" I need to do to solve the "problem" (That is what I do solve problems.) OK I know what happened. I am the last of all the "friends" to be single. That is right people. All of my close and "best" friends are all married and have kids. NO wonder I am feeling so "5th wheel" with these people. I am single, no kids, no one to be accountable for other than my happy azz...while my most cherrished gal pals are now married and have 1 or more children.

I don't feel as if I dentify with these ladies anymore, other than if they need a nanny to WATCH the kids. I can raise them well. So sad to say it, while I try to keep the friendships alive with "girl" dates and even don't mind when they bring the little ones along so we "girls" can gossip while, the kids are entertained by the over stufed cartoon characters of ChuckEE Cheese or Peter Piper Pizza.

We don't even talk about the same things. Once discussed, "hottie" of the night at "ladies night in the lounge" is now replaced with talk of the cost of Pampers and wipes. "Oh I don't like those wipes, they are so hard on "#1 skin" where I would have normally blurted outsomething so crazy as "hey I hooked up w/ HOT guy last night and...PHHHHEEEEWWWWWWEEEE, I still havent slept!". It is no wonder that with all the normal and age appropriate changes in the life cycle that these conversations would be a "sewing your wild oats" of the past. Mine are not. I am still "sewing my wild oats" and damn proud of it. The "common" ground is not there anymore. The once complaints of money and food and dating has been replaced with discussions of the mortgage and the new car and crib. *sigh*

I think the reason I have been feeling as though I can't fit in, is that simply I don't. It's like when you go from being a couple to single. I can list 3 different couples that I used to spend time with when Jerry and I were together. Since we broke up, while when I see these people out and about and say "hi" that is it. I haven't "hung" out with them since the "break-up. WHY? I am single and they are a couple. Great. So you see, while I am loving the life I am living, I know that my reason for feeling so lost is really that I no longer have as much in common with my once "best friends". While the imprtance of life choices has made us better and we will still be there for one another...They are no longer the gals that drink cocktails till 3 am and go to after hour parties. They now have traded in those martini glasses for milk bottles, dipars, and wipes.

I am not blaming anyone either. Friends drift apart and some are more assertive about wanting to get together and "doing" things. Others are "proximity" friends. You are in proximity of one another and *poof* you "look" out for one another.

So it is time to focus on meeting new friends, not because I want to replace my old friends, just add to them. Anyone have any good ideas to meet new peeps?