The Ultimate slap in the face…

His middle finger touched the small of my waist from right to left and then his palm of his hand gently, yet firmly pulled me closer, his hand on the small of my spin. His tone and firm body touching mine. His soft lips gently, but with force kissing my lips. His left hand on the small of my neck to let me know that, he could hold me if I fell. My knees weakened and I was falling deeper and deeper into his kiss…….EEEERRRRRRRRRCCCCHHHHHHHHH. What is Garth Brooks doing singing that song? What a horrible love song….WHAT is going on? Dakota stop licking my face….What a romantic buzz kill! Man the most action I have seen in months and my alarm clock has to ruin the moment!!!!

So I had the ULTIMATE slap in the face with my ex-fiancé. What a HORRIBLE weekend. First of all let me start by saying that 2 years ago in May, Jerry and I broke up. He broke things off with me 1 month before we were going to LIVE together and start a life together. ONE, UNO, one month. TWO months after he had given me a ring… a ring….This is after 1 ½ years of dating and planning. I never should have gone out with him in the first place.(this is where we say, hind sight is 20/20!) He told me that the reason that he wanted to break things off was, he didn’t want to get married. He didn’t want to have anyone in his life when he didn’t know what he wanted for himself. He just didn’t know, after 2 years of KNOWING.

So, now I need to start at the beginning. We met through a mutual friend of mine at a Karaoke bar. Jerry liked to listen to the singers, and he was just venturing out into “single life” after a year of being separated. He was waiting on his final divorce papers.(Which I didn’t know at the time we met). We started talking, and he was flirting, in a sweet way. So at the end of the night we exchanged phone numbers and then he called me! OMG he called ME!!!!! That Saturday, we went out to Sushi, and had a great night of conversation. Then in the middle of dinner we were talking about our ex’s and those pet peeves, when EEERRRRRCHHHHH he told me that his divorce wasn’t final. WHOOOP WHOOOP…Danger…Danger…. So I told him, that I would love to hang out with him, and be friends, but I am not interested in dating a man, who’s divorce isn’t final. (I previously dated a guy for 2 years who forgot, yes forgot to tell me that he wasn’t exactly divorced….Another story for another time.) SO having my “rule” no dating until your divorce is final, we remained friends and he continued to ask me out, and flirt and joke. April 1st, as though it was some kind of cruel joke, Jerry (not his real name) got his papers in the mail and it was official…He was a “free” man. He brought the papers to the bar as if in a kid in a candy store kind of way, Stated that, he wouldn’t take “NO” for an answer anymore from me. WOW. So that is how it all started. After that night we were un-separable. We did everything together, we went shopping together, vacations, I started my business with his help, asked each other about purchases, banking advise EVERYTHING. I thought that this was the one. I was off the market, I could hang up my dating hat and pass it to my gal pals for their future dating adventures. He is the one I am going to spend my life with. We both want kids, we want a house, picket fence…OK I digress. ANYWAY, So when he broke it off with me, I was shocked, stunned and in a daze. I couldn’t believe that I was hearing this. We did manage to remain “friends” He host’s Karaoke and well, I did trust him to replace my brake Pads on my car! LOL ;o)

Fast forward to present time: Two weeks ago Jerry called me and wanted me to know that he was dating a gal that he met at my old roomie’s going away party, in February (She moved back to IN ;o( Very Sad) OK, So I told him, “That is great I am so excited for you”. He then said, “well, I didn’t want you to hear it from someone else”. I said, “Gezz, Jerry, it’s not like we broke up 2 weeks ago and you already all hot and bothered by this lady. I still think this is great for you!” He said, “thanks” and was relieved that I was good with things and that he and I are still friends.

That was until Saturday night…..

Saturday night had to be the most horrible night I have ever had in my life. It all started out ok, then she flashed the ring in my face. EEERRRRRCCCCCHHHHHH. That is right ladies and Gentleman, after only 3 months they are engaged. IT was the scene from “When Harry met Sally” all over…OMG, what does she have that I don’t? What does she offer that I don’t? Well, lucky for me, or not so lucky for me….Jerry provided me the answers to these questions!!!!! Yep you heard it here! Not only am I fighting the urge to just punch her out, because she is flaunting it in my face, but I have to listen to Jerry tell me all the reasons’ why she is the “right” one to “settle” down with…I just want to run out screaming. Jerry then proceeds to tell me, (sit down this gets good)… “It is nothing against you. It is just that she has her life so much more together, she has a house and 2 beautiful kids and loves me so much. (OK AND I DIDN”T????? My life is that much of a mess??? My apt living wasn’t good enough for you???) .. He continues, “ She has given me so much wile I have been down and out on workman’s comp (He rolled his cement truck 4 months ago) she buys me things and takes care of me.” So, I am thinking (mostly muddled from the 2 lemon drop shots and 2 vodka Soda’s at that point) that I would have been that kind of wife. “For better or worse” “In sickness and health” OMG…I can’t believe he is still talking about how fantastic and wonderful she is. How she makes him SOOOO Happy……..AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I can’t take it anymore. CHECK PLEASE!!!!!!

I spent all day Sunday in a fog, not from the 5 lemon drop shots, and 2 drinks I had, but from the last thing that Jerry told me as I was trying to leave with my dignity. “Are you going to be coming to the hospital for when I have my surgery?” SERIOUSLY??? LOL I think I remember saying, I will see what I can do as I went RUNNING out of the bar with the hot wet stinging tears running down my face… SERIOUSLY??!?!?!? Seriously.